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Thursday, 28 November 2019

12 Most Important Tips To Improve Your Listening

12 Most Important Tips To Improve Your Listening

12 Most Important Tips To Improve Your Listening

To Developing Personality its Important to addressing what another person is telling you
That is, truly hearing, processing and addressing what another person is telling you.

Active listening can change how your team sees you as well as help you to learn from their viewpoints.
build micro-habits to support being fully present in each interaction.
Some micro-habits can include putting your phone away, making eye contact, making the conversation about the other person and not you by asking "why" questions, holding space for themt to talk and being curious about what is being signaled but not spoken in the communication.

Try this when looking to improve your listening skills:

1.Focus on taking one long breath prior to responding.

It will shift your answer and convey to your speaker that you were listening to them rather than preparing your response instead.

The long breath will also allow just a small pause to consider what you say before you speak.

2. Ask Two Follow-Up Questions Before Adding Your Thoughts

Always ask two follow-up questions before adding your own thoughts to a conversation. This practice takes you out of autopilot and requires paying attention in order to formulate relevant questions and reply in a meaningful way. This greatly increases the likelihood that your contribution is germane and that others in the conversation feel heard. It's an effective habit for work or personal life. - Jennine Heller, J Heller Coaching

3. Use Simple Body Language

Using simple body language, like a head nod or "uh-huh" and eye contact, will encourage the other person to continue speaking and show you are listening. Ask questions for clarification and then recap what you heard by paraphrasing to show that you understand what’s being said. Remember, when you use simple body language, it doesn’t mean you are agreeing, but that you are actively listening.

4. Compartmentalize

Active listening can be tough when we are being bombarded with information coming at us from many different directions all day and night. To ensure we are truly practicing active listening at work and at home, we must compartmentalize. We must be able to hit pause completely on anything at any time. This way we can clear our heads and hearts and be fully present and ready to listen to others.

5. Give Your Audience Your Entire Attention

Focus your entire attention on your employee and listen without judging them or developing a response before they are finished speaking. Pay attention to body language as well as the words that are being spoken. Turn to face the speaker and make eye contact. This will help you focus on the person and let the person know that they have your attention.

6. Practice Curiosity, Compassion And The Suspension Of Judgment

The best way to build active listening skills is to practice a "them" orientation. This orientation is developed when leaders practice a sense of curiosity to understand others’ viewpoints and perspectives. In addition, they need to stop being critically judgmental and become compassionately curious.

7. Connect Your Conversations To Previous Ones

Start conversations by asking a question about something discussed previously.

This jump-starts you as a listener as opposed to a talker.

It also sends a message that you were invested in the former conversation and thought it meaningful enough to follow up.

8. Practice Appreciation And Acceptance

People don't feel heard when you listen. They feel heard when they know you appreciate and accept their point of view. That doesn't mean you have to agree with it. By acknowledging and appreciating someone's point of view, you put them at ease. They now become more open to what you are saying. This will dramatically improve your communication with people

9. Become A Parrot

It may seem strange, but people want to know that they've been understood from their perspective. If someone comes to you telling you something, it is really simple to say, "Okay, let me know if I understood correctly. I believe you said X, Y, Z. Is that correct?" If they say yes, congratulations! They know you've actively heard them! If no, you now have an opportunity to become a better listener. - Cody Dakota Wooten, The Leadership Guide

10. Focus On The Four Whats

Leaders can develop better listening skills if they pre-frame every conversation with four "what" questions. What is important to this person? What is something I would like more clarity around? What does this person need? What is our mutual goal here? By really listening to what is underneath the story, leaders can get underneath to what is important and how to move that person forward!

11. Be Self-Aware And Adjust As Needed

Active listening starts with being self-aware about the distractions keeping you from listening with a purpose. Are you forming your response, thinking of something else, distracted by surroundings? When you identify your pitfalls, you can more easily and mindfully address them. Commit to clearing your mind when you listen, listen beyond the spoken word for inflection, tone, breath, pace, emotion.

12. W.A.I.T.

W.A.I.T. is short for "Why Am I Talking?" If you believe, as I do, that leaders don't need to have all of the answers, it gets a lot easier to listen. And if you want to focus on listening to learn and to understand, very little of your time should be spent talking. Why should you be talking?—when you want to ask a question or seek deeper understanding. Otherwise, W.A.I.T!

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